Hello Family and Friends (you know who you are!):
You should have received a bcc (blind copy) of an email which I sent to 2 acquaintances of mine (whom I know through a mutual friend from the Aloha state) who are authors of a book recently published, Courting Equality: A Documentary History of America's First Legal Same-Sex Marriages.
I first met Pat and Karen at an event in Washington, D.C., over a decade ago. A mutual friend (Rebekah Luke) introduced us and hosted our visit in D.C. at The Pen Arts Building, which was once home to both President Abraham Lincoln's Son as well as a descendant of President John Adams. Since the 1950's, the Pen Arts Building has been home to the National League of American Pen Women.
That trip was significant to me in many ways:
- It was an extension of the lobbying I had done (while living in Hawaii) on behalf of Hawaiians -- the first time I had participated in a march in our nation's capital;
- It was the first significant trip that I took since returning to the mainland after leaving Hawai'i; and
- I was recovering from a traumatic accident which had happened to me in 1996.
Since that trip, I have been to Hawai'i a few times... and, interestingly, Pat and Karen were there during at least 2 of my visits when I had the good fortune to meet them again. I have photos of the most recent trip and they can be viewed at my Picasaweb site.
I am planning to get my own copy of their book autographed to mark this historic event in the history of lesbians and gays (a group of second-class citizens, which includes me, as you know). As a gay man, I can better imagine what it must have been like for couples of mixed races who were finally permitted to marry legally in all 50 states of our nation merely 401 years ago... and imagine what it must have been like for the women of Wyoming who were the first women to have the right to vote2, hold public office, and serve on juries (which is why Wyoming is known as "The Equality State").
I mean, can you imagine how women of the other 49 states must have still felt like second-class citizens; knowing that simply their residency in "the wrong state" was the barrier to their "equality" as an American citizen3? Well, I can imagine... because I do not live in the "Modern Equality State" of Massachusetts. And, I know, that simply living in that state would entitle me to some of the rights and privileges which the "other 80%" of my co-citizens enjoy. In other words, my co-citizens who were born heterosexual are entitled to special rights -- primarily based on religious ideas and principles. This is in direct violation of our Bill of Rights.
Some people claim that this is a religious issue. But that is false. Because, in the U.S. Constitution, the Bill of Rights specifically prohibits our government from making decisions (i.e., allocating or with-holding rights) on any religious basis.
This is not to say that one cannot hold a particular belief based on his or her religious views. Everyone has that right to his or her own views. It simply means that our government cannot make laws extending special rights to certain people (or with-holding rights from others) on the basis of religion. It is amazing that heterosexual people find it so hard to understand that it is not I who am asking for "special rights." On the contrary, "special rights and privileges" are being granted by 49 states AND our federal government based on *their* sexual orientation. And, these special rights are granted on -- yes! -- religious bases. This is in direct violation of the Bill of Rights!
Each of you knows me very well. Ask yourself how you can sit by idly and do nothing while someone whom you love (or, perhaps you only like me) is being discriminated against? Knowing me as you do, you know that I WOULD NOT BE ABLE TO SIT BY IDLY WHILE OUR GOVERNMENT CREATED LAWS DESIGNED TO DISCRIMINATE AGAINST YOU. After all, it was my inability to sit idly by, that I involved myself in the movement of, by, and on behalf of Hawaiians, whom our government also treats as "Second-Class Citizens."
I don't often ask favors. In fact, I rarely ask favors.
Now, however, I am asking you for a personal favor. This is a favor whose outcome causes only a positive result: a prohibition for our government to discriminate against a group (which, I remind you, includes me); discrimination by the very government which calls for "equality" in our Constitution and whose pledge of allegiance ends with the phrase "and justice for all."
I ask for you to take action to make that phrase in our pledge hold true rather than sit there as a hypocritical pledge. "How can you take action?" you may ask. There are thousands of ways. I will highlight a few. But, please, do not feel constrained. Each of you is smart in your own special way. If you take a few minutes to think about this issue you can certainly come up with a plethora of additional ideas.
Some Suggested ways:
- Discuss the issue with your friends, neighbors, co-workers and others in your social network; through discussion, the "shame" is removed and true education occurs. But more importantly, justice prevails.
- For those who have time and/or motivation, get involved in activities and scenarios where you can work to make a difference. Be someone who decides that the "chains of bondage" which create "second-class" citizens is wrong and must be corrected. In other words, those chains must be removed!
- Contact your representatives in your state government and those who represent you in the U.S. Congress and express to them how you feel and how wrong discrimination is.
These are only 3 simple ways. As I stated there are infinitely many more. For those of you who are blessed with creativity, put that creativity to use. Come up with some ideas of your own.
I appreciate the time you have taken to read my thoughts, feelings, and beliefs about an issue which has bothered me since as long as I can remember.
With my love,
Chris
FOOTNOTES
1In Loving v. Virginia, 1967.
2In 1869, Wyoming's Territorial legislature became the first government in the world to grant "Female Suffrage;" SEE Wyoming's Equality Heritage.
3SEE U.S. Constitution: 19th Amendment; ratified August 18, 1920.
